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On Why Not To Love

In life there's love and loss.
Somethings you feel deeply and some things you don't feel at all. The question of Love has tormented me deeply. How can people write sonnets about a feeling that has eluded me completely. When they sing about missing the "One that got away" I don't have that one. All I have is the ice cream I could't eat because I was so full. 

I see the music videos and in the backseat of my Uber, I want to stare out the window feeling sorry for myself but I don't. Yeah, sure, the song's sad but I am not. How does another person even have the power to make you feel sorry for yourself? Why would you give someone that power? When people cry over lost love, maybe they were stupid to love in the first place. Blinded by love, hoping for something better, sacrificing, trusting - honey, stop right there. You are just being DELUSIONAL. How does one go from 'madly in love' to 'madly in love with someone else' overnight?
I have heard way tooooo many sob stories to not find a pattern.
I have two very simple answers for the two types of women out there : 

1. Fighting in a Relationship Kind - Spare yourself the grief and break up already before you find out he cheated. If you're fighting that much, you know it's not gonna work out. IF you are in a LDR (long distance relationship), you know they don't work right? They only last for as long as it takes for one of them to find a replacement. By some miracle if your LDR is serious, then a very valuable pointer for you - Don't ever let your GF/BF have a best friend of the opposite gender in the other city. They will have moments, they would create memories and then they will end up screwing. END IT. 

2. Crushing on Someone Kind - To all my BFFs, I am so done with your BS. Yes, I am happy if there's a cute guy in your office but no, I do not want to look at his Instagram for the next 109356 days! Yes, we will stalk him once because, duh! See ladies, when you crush on a guy, it's obvious. If he isn't responding then maybe it is time you get a hint and move ON. I want to save you from a heartbreak from a relationship that existed purely in your mind. Those tight tees and hair flips aren't helping. Just watch the movie "He's just not that into you," and you'll realize that he's just not that into you.

Get out of there ladies with your dignity intact. Have crushes, fall in lust and blah blah. Stop obsessing. If you want to obsess, there are new Boots you can look at or Brownies. 


That's all for the day!
xoxo
Pearl


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